High Conflict Divorce

High Conflict Divorce

High conflict divorce impacts not only the ex-couple, but, everyone in their family and social circle. It is especially harmful to children as they move between one parent to the other during access exchanges. The emotional and psychological damage that is caused to children in these circumstances can affect them for the rest of their lives. Rather than accept the view that divorce has to be adversarial, we work with high conflict divorce parents to create a better alternative.

 

We help couples identify situations which perpetuate the high conflict and assist in the reduction of destructive patterns and behaviours. Most parents are willing to change their behaviour when shown how their behaviour negatively affects the child. Although children cannot be protected from all conflict, it is the persistent, escalating and potentially dangerous unresolved high conflict divorce that parents should be motivated to change.

Blended Families

Managing a high conflict divorce is a challenge in the best of circumstances.

 

When two families form a union and children from previous relationships are brought into the mix, it can add another level of difficulty that most are not equipped to handle.

 

Blended families face these challenges on a regular basis for a number of reasons, including different traditions, routines and parenting styles. It can be hard to balance different expectations from biological children and step-children as well as new spouse and former spouse.

Blended families experiencing these challenges, will be provided with resources, including individual or group counselling (or a combination of the two) to help reduce the possibility of another high conflict divorce. Registration is required for all group sessions, and, may include guest speakers.

New Partners

African American family spending time together after conflict coaching

Children of separation and high conflict divorce experience similar emotions to those who have experienced the death of a loved one. In both cases, allowing time to heal is crucial.

 

Before introducing a child to a new partner, parents are encouraged to seek guidance on when it is appropriate to do so. When parties enter into a new relationship soon after a high conflict divorce, there is a high possibility that the new relationship will fail.

 

We will assist and provide guidance by focusing on the child’s age and stage of development.

In addition, we will focus on what is in the child’s best interest and guide you on what role the new partner should play in the child’s life. The main goal is to help protect the child from additional separation and loss and high conflict divorce.

Conflict Coaching

Conflict coaching is a confidential one-on-one meeting that allows someone to talk about a conflict with a third party (the coach). The coach will help you consider options for managing your conflict with another person. The coach also provides tools and strategies to actively engage, manage and resolve the conflict.

 

The process works for neighbour disputes, landlord and tenant disputes, teacher/student or anyone in an active conflict with another person. The coach will:

  • Gather information from the participant as they explain the situation
  • Provide relevant resources when warranted
  • Gather demographic information to start a case file
  • Discuss the situation with the participant and help them process options
  • Explore various options or scenarios and test their applicability to the situation
  • Set goals, determine next steps and establish time frame
Couple in a high conflict divorce yelling at each other

The coaching process is fast and is usually completed in less than two days.